466. Kitchen is Off-limits

CalebLead Pastor
May 22, 2026

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Last Sunday, there was an incident during KSC shepherds meeting happening at Richland. A few kids climbed kitchen table top and stood on it, and school saw the scene through CCTV footage. As the school stressed not to use the kitchen for health and sanitary reasons for their students, the school expressed great shock upon watching the incident. So they notified us that if any more kitchen related issue happens again, they will terminate the lease.

The email came to the facility related point of contact: facility team leader, finance team leader, and myself. We were all shocked to see the footgage, and also regretful that it happened. As it happened even in the presence of kids' parents, we realized preventing this from happening is almost impossible as long as there are kids in the cafeteria. So we agreed that we cannot take any more chances and decided to communicate to KSC to not use Richland building indefinitely. KSC leaders were very sorry, and they understood our decision. We considered putting warning sign and putting some barriers around the kitchen but it would be impractical to do it every single week and looking at the video, it became obvious that kids could easily sneak in anytime even with barrier.

Some might feel that it is a too strong of a measure. But boundaries must become stronger for the things we cannot afford to lose and we cannot afford losing our worship space. Richland is located at a location where it is not too far from KSC, located on Yonge street which allows our members to easily use public transportation. Such building is rare to find in our area. So we believe this is the best place of worship for us for now. We have always cooperated with KSC building usage but we realized stronger boundary is now needed. Exact details of the building usage is in discussion but what is for sure is that any KSC meetings that involve kids being present in the building won't happen. This will also impact some children ministry team related meetings, as they involve kids and KSC parents with kids coming to the building as well.

It reminds us of the sobering reality that we can lose what is precious in our lives with one mistake, and we must be diligent in protecting what is precious. Any time you see new comer or new youth, please remind them that kitchen is off-limits. But even with this negative news, we can still find what is good about this situation. God makes all things work together for the good of those who love him(Rom 8:28), and that good involves us becoming more like Christ as well, including being a good steward.

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